“In the ’90s, when I was a kid, my dad was always telling me I needed a little body in my hair. [His process was to] use two blow-dryers at the same time, shake out his hair, then flip it up—and I was like, "Daddy, I don’t want my hair like that!" I liked my hair flat, silky, and tucked behind my ears. Today when I go and stay with him, I always have to raid his cupboards because he’s got all the best creams. He’s, like, a major moisturizer. He’ll cover his whole body in oil and moisturizer and walk around the house in a pair of shorts. Me, I do face masks all the time. Even when I’m walking around the house. It has always been fun to watch him get dressed. But I definitely don’t think of him when I’m getting dressed.”—Liv Tyler, via Lipstick.com
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic “How you doin’?” or “Good weekend?”
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is—if he’s staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he’s perving on you.
He’s awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to “hang out” some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they’ll say “hang out” instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you’re his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you’re around.
He compliments your appearance. “You look nice today” is guyspeak for “I’m attracted to you.”
When he cracks a joke, you’re the first person he looks at for a reaction.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He asks your friends questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn’t care.
He touches you, even subtly—a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us—we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy’s hand on you, especially more than once, that’s a huge giveaway that he likes you.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He’s trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don’t like. Or maybe he’s just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don’t. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won’t remember that shit, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him—creeper alert!).